How to get control over anger - Anger Management
Be alert. Pray. Do more Practice. Keep a watch over your mind. Be silent. Keep silent daily for an hour. Forget and forgive. Bear insult and injury. Observe
1. See God in all. Submit to God’s will. Then you cannot get angry.
2. In the morning meditate on the virtue of patience. Manifest it during the day. Take a vow - ‘I will practice endurance and forgiveness during the day.
3. Speak sweetly. Speak little.
4. Mix little. Have congenial company. Read spiritual books.
5. Give up intoxicating liquors, meat and tobacco.
6. If you find it difficult to control anger, leave the place at once. Take a long walk. Drink cold water. Count from 1 to 30. Anger will subside.
7. Develop patience to a considerable extent. People lose their temper when they become impatient. Allow the mind to dwell constantly on the opposite of anger, the virtue of patience.
8. Do not give vent to anger. Control the body first. Have physical control. Practice this again and again. Be regular in your meditation. This will give you great inner spiritual strength.
9. Food has a great deal to do with irritability. Take milk, fruits, curd, spinach, barley, groundnuts, butter milk. Do not take carrots, onion, garlic, cauliflower, drumstick.
10. Do not argue much. Do not retort. Speak sweetly always. Do not use abusive words.
Become a man of measured words. If a man abuses or insults you, keep quiet. It can never be hurt or insulted.
- Adapted from Conquest of Anger by Sri Swami Sivananda
Time Out is great - if you feel the anger rising, go for a run, or tell the person “I need a break”, or “can we finish talking about this later?” If you are afraid of what you’ll say or do because of your anger - take a break from the person until you have calmed down.